You’ve got a lie you tell yourself. Maybe more than one.
It sounds responsible. Prudent. Like you’re making a smart decision.
It’s actually fear wearing a respectable mask.
Three lies are tanking game dev careers right now. If you’re stuck, one of them is probably living rent-free in your head.
Lie One: “I Shouldn’t”
“I shouldn’t apply for that role, I don’t have enough experience.”
“I shouldn’t post on LinkedIn, I might look desperate.”
“I shouldn’t speak up in meetings, I might say something stupid.”
This lie feels responsible. You’re being careful. Measured. Not getting ahead of yourself.
It’s actually fear pretending to be wisdom.
A client kept saying they shouldn’t speak up in meetings. Stayed invisible. The moment they started sharing one idea per week, something shifted. Their manager noticed. Within three months they were leading a project.
Three months. Because they stopped shoulding themselves.
What changed wasn’t their competence. It wasn’t some magical third idea that made them suddenly qualified. It was visibility. Suddenly the manager knew they had thoughts worth listening to. Suddenly there was evidence of contribution. The fear of looking stupid was costing them months of career momentum.
The irony is that playing it safe is the riskiest move in a dynamic industry. You become invisible. You don’t build experience. You don’t build visibility. You don’t build relationships. You just… wait.
Visibility isn’t vanity. It’s career survival.
Lie Two: “I Can’t”
“I can’t network, I’m too introverted.”
“I can’t get noticed by recruiters, I don’t have the right background.”
“I can’t make a career move, I’m too old for entry-level and too junior for senior.”
This lie feels like it’s based on reality. You’re just acknowledging your limitations.
You’re not. You’re catastrophizing about a future that doesn’t exist yet.
Here’s the move: Reframe every “I can’t” into “How can I?”
Instead of “I can’t network, I’m introverted” ask “How can I network in a way that doesn’t drain me?” Maybe it’s Discord communities instead of conventions. Maybe it’s Twitter spaces instead of in-person meetups. Maybe it’s mentoring one junior dev who then brings you into their network.
Instead of “I can’t get noticed by recruiters” ask “How can I make my LinkedIn profile irresistible?” Short answer: Show your work. Post about what you’re learning. Tag your projects. Build a follow-up mechanism.
The question changes everything. It moves you from victim to problem-solver.
Lie Three: “I Don’t Have Enough”
The ultimate scarcity mindset.
“I don’t have enough experience. I don’t have enough portfolio pieces. I don’t have enough connections. I don’t have enough time.”
You’ll never feel like you have enough. There will always be someone with more. Always.
The people who succeed start with what they have. Right now.
A client wanted a lead role but kept saying they didn’t have enough leadership experience. So they started mentoring junior devs. Invested three hours a week. Built real examples.
Within six months they had concrete evidence of leadership. Not hypothetical. Real. Measurable. They landed the lead role because they stopped waiting to feel ready. And here’s the thing. They didn’t suddenly have more time or more experience. They just redirected what they already had. Three hours a week that they had in the first place. A willingness to help that was already inside them. The only thing that changed was the decision to stop waiting.
You are never going to feel ready. You’re either going to use what you have to build more, or you’re going to stay stuck waiting for permission from a future that never arrives.
How to Break the Lie
Three steps.
Step one: Call out the lie. Say it out loud. “I’m telling myself I shouldn’t speak up in meetings.” Now you can see it. Now you can question it.
Step two: Reframe the story. Not positive thinking BS. Real reframing. “I shouldn’t speak up” becomes “What would happen if I shared one thought in the next meeting?” Different energy entirely.
Step three: Take one small action. One. Not a life overhaul. Not a transformation narrative. One small move in the direction of the new story.
Speak one idea. Post one LinkedIn update. Reach out to one person. Mentor one junior. Start one side project.
Momentum builds from small moves.
The Pattern
All three lies do the same thing.
They let you be comfortable while staying stuck. They sound wise but they’re actually afraid. They keep you small by making smallness feel like a choice instead of a trap.
The industry doesn’t care how comfortable your story is. It cares about what you ship. What you’ve built. Who you’ve helped. The problems you’ve solved.
None of that happens while you’re waiting for the lie to become true.
Start today. Pick one lie you’re telling yourself. Say it out loud. Feel how it lands. Then reframe it. Then move.
Lies are LOUD until you call them out. Then they get quiet. Then you can actually hear yourself.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Q: What’s the difference between “I shouldn’t” and “I can’t”?
A: “I shouldn’t” is fear dressed up as responsibility. It sounds like you’re being careful, but you’re just avoiding risk. Playing it safe is the riskiest move in your career because the gaming industry doesn’t reward wall flowers. It rewards people who take up space and try even when they don’t check every box.
Q: How do I stop the “I can’t” mentality from holding me back?
A: Reframe “I can’t” into “How can I?” The moment you shift from defeat to curiosity, you start finding solutions. Instead of saying “I can’t network because I’m introverted,” ask “How can I network in a way that works for my style?” Instead of “I can’t lead,” ask “How can I start mentoring someone today?” That shift from blocked to curious changes everything.
Q: Why does “I don’t have enough” keep me stuck?
A: This is the ultimate scarcity mindset trap. You’ll never feel like you have enough experience, time, or permission to go after what you want. The people who win aren’t the ones who wait for everything to line up. They’re the ones who start with what they have, where they are, and build from there.
Q: What’s the fastest way to break free from these three lies?
A: First, call out the lie when you hear it in your head. Stop and ask if it’s really true or just fear talking. Second, reframe the story because the language you use about yourself shapes what you believe is possible. Third, take one small action today because action kills fear. You don’t need to overhaul your entire career overnight, just take one step.
Q: How can I start building leadership experience right now?
A: Don’t wait until you have the title. Start mentoring a junior team member today. Document those interactions as concrete leadership examples. Within six months, you’ll have real proof of leadership to put on your resume. That’s how you move from “I don’t have enough experience” to “I have enough to lead.”